Tuesday, January 27, 2015

FRIENDSHIP {the good, the bad, and the stressful}

 Last week was far from my favorite. There were highs and lows so interspersed that I was exhausted with feelings and emotions in general. I'm not really going to go into any details because I'm hoping and optimistic that things will resolve themselves but my mom instantly became my rock through it all. She would sit on the other end of the phone with me allowing me to be upset and motivate me to take a different approach and plan of action. My big was also this way but my friend Langley seemed to understand every detail of what I was trying to juggle. Langley emailed me this and I knew instantly that I had to share it with y'all regardless of if she even was ok with me doing so (fortunately she was which is even better).

Langley and I met one summer when we were both counselors at the same camp. The next summer we became even closer and have either texted or snap chatted every day since. It's crazy how these sort of relationships can form so quickly and then be so crucial. Currently, Langley is a senior at the University of Alabama (roll tide!) double majoring in Public Relations and Event Planning with a clear goal of what she wants to do but not quite sure where. I have full faith that she will land a dream job after graduation and continue to share her wisdom and work ethic with others!
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Sometimes we are put in situations we don’t know how to handle, and when they are situations that are brought on because of friendship, the difficulty of handling the situation escalates quickly. Not knowing what to do when you plan every aspect of your life is the scariest and the hardest of all situations to handle. Luckily, there is someone who is dealing with the same thing and will do everything in their power to help you and create a plan of action, and be a friend when you need one the most!

Friendship is the hardest relationship in your life, and girlfriends are the absolute hardest. It’s kind of like the Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Poem There Was a Little Girl, “…When she was good, she was very good indeed, But when she was bad she was horrid.” When things with your girlfriends are good, nothing can upset you, life is great and they are the best aspect of your life. When your friendships with your girlfriends are bumpy and unpredictable/unexpected, you live in vulnerability, confusion, and a constant state of sadness. 

Being in college is hard. You are technically an adult, but you don’t feel like it. You are expected to figure things out on your own, do the right thing and decide how the course of your life is going to play out. This is when you rely on the girlfriends you are closest to to have your back and talk you through it, even until you get wound up and they bring your favorite junk food, coloring books, and a movie and decide that was enough thinking for one day.

One thing that everyone, but girls especially (and me double especially), have to remember is that you are not alone. Everyone has been in your shoes. They have felt lost, alone and deserted by the people who are supposed to love them best. When you find yourself in this situation, you must find someone who you trust and love to confide in and if you choose the right person, they will drop everything and work their hardest to find a solution, and if they can’t do that, do everything they can to make you feel safe, wanted, and loved. 

“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24 

“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 

” Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13 

Find your brother. Find your iron. Find the one who would lay down their life for you. 

They are the one who will make you feel safe, wanted and loved. 
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As Langley emphasized, friendships are hard but so worth it. I know I have been so happy to have someone to turn to when I am confused and upset and I want all of y'all to know that if you ever want to chat with you're more than welcome to reach out to me through email or instagram direct message since I love talking to people!

I hope Langley's advice inspires some of y'all in the same way it inspired me!
(PS, follow her on Pinterest!)


  1. Absolutely great advice! I've been going through some tough stuff with girlfriends, and it is totally hard, but as with any relationship, it also strengthens your friendship once you come through it together. All relationships are work, but sometimes we forget that this also applies to our friendships.

    I hope all works out for you, stay strong and positive!
    Sweet Spontaneity

  2. Love this. College is especially hard on friendships whether it's getting annoyed by people you spend almost 24/7 with or feeling strain on a long distance friendship. The great part is that the true friends are still there after the hard times.

    Alex | Mrs. Mason Dixon

  3. This is such great advice! I've definitely been through some really hard times with girlfriends. It is so difficult because you expect your girlfriends to always be there for you- and when they're not, you feel like you don't have your support system cheering you on. You are such an amazing person, and I know your friendships will strengthen after this challenging time. Stay positive!!

    xoxo, Abby

  4. I love this, amazing advice

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  5. Couldn't agree more!



  6. Such a great post, I can resonate completely.
    xo Tia | www.bigcitytyro.com


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